Galatians
5:22-23; Luke 18:1-8
I spent most of the 1980’s as an associate in Lawrenceburg, in
Anderson County. The church I
served was a few miles south of town, with open land behind it. Unfortunately, it became a “meet-up”
place for people. The parking lot
behind the church was totally concealed from the highway, and I could look out
of my office window and see couples meeting in the parking lot below. They would drive both cars, park, and
drive away in one of the cars. One
couple had been meeting like this over a period of weeks, and, to be honest, it
really got under my skin. Not at the church, please, was my
attitude. One day, after seeing
them drive off in one car, I went into the minister’s office and said you know what we should do? We should go out and let the air out of
one of their tires. That would let
them know they are being watched.
He said no, and I thought perhaps, he’s right. Maybe we should just leave them alone. But then he said No. What we should do is
let the air out of two of the tires, that way they’ll have to call someone to
come and help them. And then
they’ll have to explain what their car is doing parked behind our church. So we went out and let the air out of
both of the back tires. We never
saw them again!
As we continue our series, Nurturing
A Healthy Heart, this morning we come to faithfulness. As I
began thinking about faithfulness that story came to mind, because when we hear
the word faithfulness, we think of our relationships, and when we think of
relationships, we think about our marriages.
A lack of faithfulness in marriage is one of the most emotionally
and spiritually destructive events a person can experience. Some people are able to work through that
devastation, but many do not.
This morning, I want to speak two words – a pastoral word and a
theological word.
First, the pastoral word, and it is about relationships. Here it is in a very simple sentence –
if you are having relationship difficulties, do what you can to fix them. It is not a one-person task to fix a
relationship, but do what you
can. And here are a couple of
things when it comes to fixing a relationship –
1. There is your side, the
other person’s side, and the truth.
Sometimes, when I counsel with people, I can’t help but wonder as I hear
two very different accounts of the relationship and the problem. We must learn to hear what the other
person is saying, and that isn’t easy, especially when we are hurt. It’s hard to hear anything through our
hurt.
We all see through a “lens” in life. In relationships, that lens is often distorted by anger,
frustration, disappointment, and hurt.
When we are looking through a lens shaped by those emotions, we are
unable to see some of the truths we need to see and understand.
2. If you don’t see a
relationship going anywhere, do the person a favor and don’t string them
along.
I heard some rather amazing poll results the other day. The results of this poll found that 73
per cent have made do with their
partner because their true love
slipped through their fingers.
73%!
You can’t toy with the heart of another person.
3. Be honest.
I find that people, as much as the truth may hurt, really want to
hear the truth. We all deserve the
truth. Be honest in your
relationships.
I will add a disclaimer here.
Some people love to use the truth as a weapon. These people want to use truth – or their version of it – to
bring hurt. It’s easy to see when
this is coming – it usually if prefaced by this comment – I want to tell you something in love. I generally find there is very little love in what they have
to say, but plenty of hurt.
4. Get help when
you need it.
If you are sick and cannot get better on your own, what do you
do? You call a doctor, don’t
you? We don’t mess around with our
health, so why do we so often drag our feet? Get help!
I had a couple come to me once and their marriage was in really bad
shape. I met with the husband one
day and he was pretty clueless, even by guy standards. We talked a while, and I told him they
really needed to talk to a professional, and I recommended one to him. I remember the day when they came to me
to say that counselor had saved their marriage. And not only saved the marriage but made it stronger and
better than before.
5. Love is always
worth the work.
Love, and relationships, are not always easy. Relationships take work, but love is
worth the work.
That’s the pastoral word; now the theological word.
The passage we read this morning comes from one of the parables of
Jesus, as found in Luke’s gospel. Hear
our readings this morning, first from Galatians, where we find the Fruits of the Spirit, and then from
Luke’s gospel –
22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace,
patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness,
23 gentleness and self-control. Against such things
there is no law.
1 Then Jesus told
his disciples a parable to show them that they should always pray and not give
up.
2 He said: “In a certain town there was a judge who
neither feared God nor cared what people thought.
3 And there was a widow in that town who kept
coming to him with the plea, ‘Grant me justice against my adversary.’
4 “For some time he refused. But finally he said to
himself, ‘Even though I don’t fear God or care what people think,
5 yet because this widow keeps bothering me, I will
see that she gets justice, so that she won’t eventually come and attack me!’”
6 And the Lord said, “Listen to what the unjust
judge says.
7 And will not God bring about justice for his
chosen ones, who cry out to him day and night? Will he keep putting them off?
8 I tell you, he will see that they get justice,
and quickly. However, when the Son of Man comes, will he find
faith on the earth?”
This parable comes after Jesus had been questioned about when the
kingdom of God would come. Jesus
spoke with his disciples about the future. They were worried, very worried, about the present and the future. Their world seemed to be falling
apart. As bad as the present was,
they wondered if things are this bad now,
what’s the future going to be like?
What’s going to happen to our children and grandchildren?
Does that sound familiar?
Have you ever worried about what the future holds for your children and
grandchildren?
The world always seems to be falling apart. People are always worried about the
future, and for good reason, as there are some very real concerns.
So Jesus tells this parable about a widow who goes to a judge
seeking justice. We don’t know
what she had experienced, but someone had taken advantage of her in some way or
perhaps cheated her out of money.
Jesus said the judge neither
feared God nor cared about men (verse 2). This judge did not care about the woman or her
problems. He was, sadly, a very
corrupt judge.
We have friends who adopted internationally. They were encouraged to bring gifts for the judge who was presiding
over their case. Gifts? I don’t think that’s the word we would
use in our legal system. This
judge was many times worse. He was
openly corrupt and unconcerned about justice. He was a Snidley Whiplash type of character, if you remember
that cartoon.
The parable is often seen as a story of being persistent in our
prayers, which is correct. Luke
tells us at the beginning of the passage that Jesus told his disciples a parable to show them that they should always
pray and not give up (verse 1).
But people often assume Jesus means that if we pray often enough, and
hard enough, God will eventually relent and grant us what we ask. That is not at all what the parable is
teaching.
In the parable Jesus is drawing a contrast between God and the unrighteous judge, not a comparison. The
judge would not respond to her request and only did so after her repeated
pleas. The judge was eventually
worn down and granted her request for justice in order to save himself from the
headache of her perseverance and to spare himself the embarrassment of not
acting upon her request.
The lesson Jesus teaches through the parable is that God is not at
all like this judge. We do not
have to cajole or wear God out with our continual pleas. In fact, Jesus says in Matthew 6:8 that
your Father knows what you need before
you ask him. God is not like this judge. He is not thinking, if they would just ask one more time, and
with a bit more conviction, or if they would get another ten people praying,
then I would step in and help out.
The problem is not that God does not hear our prayers; the problem
is in our trying to understand God’s ways and learning to adapt to his time
frame. We often struggle to
understand the manner in which God works, wondering why he doesn’t seem to
answer our prayers. The truth is,
God answers our prayers, but the time frame in which he answers, and the manner
in which he answers, are not always understandable to us.
God tends to work over the long haul; we tend to operate in the
moment. It’s hard to think and act
in our long-term interests. We
have enough difficulty getting through today; why should we worry about
tomorrow?
At the end of the parable Jesus flips the question of faithfulness
around – will God find that we are faithful? Will we continue to be faithful in our prayers and in our
faith, even though we may struggle to see the hand of God at work in our lives?
I used to have a poster that said when you come to the end of your rope – let go. It’s good advice to let go and to allow
yourself to fall into the loving arms of God. Trust and believe that he is working on your behalf. You may not see his hand, but his hand
is guiding your life. You may not
understand his plan, but his plan is one of goodness for your life. You may not understand his timetable,
but his goodness will come to you.